Celebrating High School Graduation as Co-parents
Throughout Ian’s senior year of high school, Bob and I attended marching band concerts, rock-band performances, and senior banquets with our new partners, with grandparents, and all of us always sitting together. So when it came to celebrating graduation, why wouldn’t we plan one big party?
Most, not all, stepparents feel many of the same emotions with regard to their step-kids as blood parents do. They want the best things in life for them. They just don’t have a lot of say in the matter.
Revisiting My Mission
I DO NOT expect my accounts to be met with full agreement from others who were part of these experiences.
Happily Divorced Tip #2 – Practice the Golden Rule
Honestly, doesn’t this tip apply to everyone? Imagine if everyone solidly stuck to this approach in every encounter with others. What a world it would be!
Of course the most important decision we had to make with regard to our future lives as co-parents was how we would split our time with our son, Ian. Again, the words “you’re going to miss half of his life Teresa!” replayed in my head over and over again cutting through my soul each time I allowed the thought to enter my head.
Growing Up in Two Homes
I never wanted Ian to prefer one home over another. I think this arrangement’s benefits went a long way to improve the circumstances of our separated family. But it didn’t happen by accident. We chose to make it happen this way.
One of the first things we had to encounter as recently-divorced parents was the school system. Ian entered kindergarten about 2 months after we separated. You would have thought divorce was a brand new concept. Everything from emergency information forms to grade cards was designed to accommodate parents that lived at the same residence. And this was the year 1999!